What We Do

Our first priority is to help you build and maintain a fulfilling and meaningful relationship.  By identifying negative repetitive patterns of behavior, you will see how you may be holding yourself back from achieving your goals.  We can help you rescue a troubled relationship, recover from violation or betrayal, restore trust and respect, and rekindle romance and intimacy.

We start with the belief that your relationship is worth saving.  We want you to walk out of our office arm-in-arm.  Our first meeting is a stand-alone session, an opportunity for us to meet in person, to talk about what you would like to change, and what you would hope to gain from your work with us; as well as an opportunity for you to get a sense of what we do, and how we work.  At the end of that meeting, we can make a more enlightened decision together about what to do next, what direction to take, and how to structure future sessions to focus on your particular needs and goals.

Our approach is a supportive, positive, growth-oriented one.  We operate from an assumption of possibility rather than limitation.  We focus on solutions rather than problems, patterns rather than pathology, present and future rather than past.  When we can help you find the insight, motivation and courage to identify and change patterns of unproductive or hurtful behavior, and to experiment with doing something different, then we can step back, allowing you to continue your experimenting, and your discovery of new possibilities, on your own.

We begin with a focus on communication skills, skills crucial to a happy marriage.  We will help you learn to honor your differences, understand the importance of encouragement, give and receive appreciation, treat each other tenderly, and listen deeply and nonjudgmentally to each other.  This leads to a shared approach to problem-solving and conflict resolution that is peaceful, respectful, and safe.

We do this work without blame.  We may go back to the past to understand why there may be a deficit in a certain area, but we do not stay in the past.  It can be really comforting to understand, and maybe forgive, some things about our past, but the real work is in the present.  The present is where we live.  We want these skills to become embedded in daily life, and not forgotten or given up easily.

Good tools last a Lifetime.